Get ready for Dominance

Probably one of the most common perceptions of the BDSM game is a Dom torturing his Sub, which is only an outward image to many people. Dominant and Submissive are the poles of the one, parts of BDSM play where everyone has its duties and roles. So let's talk about Dominant.

Who is the Dominant?

Basically, a Dominant or Dom is the one who is in charge of the game, who has the power. The role of the Dominant implies that he or she will take the heck of responsibility and make the play being followed in the right direction. Dominant is a person who gives orders, and sets the rules of the scene, imposes his power, punishes as well as the one who rewards and takes care of the submissive safety. Dom is also responsible for selecting all the outfit and BDSM toys for the scenery.

What are Dominant's perfect traits?

It is often disputed on the characteristics a Dom should possess to fulfill his role more successfully. Of course you may well continue the list of the suggested traits of the perfect Dom, but here what are the main and probably the most important ones:

• Trustful
• Powerful
• Superior
• Proud
• Responsible

Dominant is the one who can be trusted

A true relationship within BDSM society is built on trust first of all. A Dom is responsible for his words and Sub knows his well-being is in good hands.

Dominant uses his power

This is probably the core of the matter. But as the power can be understood quite differently, it's important to say that this power is not an unrestricted one. A person in power should be respected. The power a Dom exerts can be characterized by esteem quality above all cause he is the one who takes charge of his sub's needs and safety.

Dominant is the one who rules, but not the one who is cruel.

Violence is absolutely not an aim for BDSM play. What is the main difference between power a Dom imposes and the violence is that all is done by mutual consent. A Dom won't use BDSM toy if it has not been previously agreed on. Of course all the rules and BDSM toy use should be specified beforehand and that's what the dominant should be aware of.

In fact, a Dom should even have compassion above all. A Dom is interacting with his Sub on a special level and he becomes aware of the slightest emotional fluctuations and physical state. Ruling in this regard has more of a guiding sense.

Dominant is proud – not arrogant

Dom should be aware of his power and see himself as a really strong part in this game. Being proud of your own strength is different from being simply arrogant. The one who is proud of himself in a fake manner cannot be fully respected by submissive. The mask you wear should be a good and very sincere performance.

Dominant is the one who takes the responsibility

Dominant is in full control of the play. This can be hard to take, but all that has been said about safety rules is first of all applied to Dominant person. If he knows the game is going to be the hard one, and he is going to practice it with a BDSM toy never used before, he should therefore take more responsibility of it. Of course everyone can make a mistake, but mistakes could become fatal ones that's why the control should be very high and awareness of the risk is also one of the primary tasks for Dom.

In case a Dom gets the scenery ready he should be in control even when the situation deviates from the scenario both had agreed on. If for example, a Sub is asking for a breath control play with a BDSM toy and he had never practiced something like that, it is a Dom who should weigh all pros and cons and make a decision.

You should know that no one is respected or submitted to just for nothing. Being powerful is a great job as well as being submissive. That's why being proud of what you are and lead the game!