Get in touch with your masochist nature

A lot of people who are not familiar with the reality of BDSM culture may consider masochism and sadism as a kind of illness, which is not true. Who are masochists and sadists anyway? Let's have a look at one of those activities or better said a way of enjoying erotic play. Masochism is one of the forms of BDSM play where sexual arousal and sexual pleasure is derived from having pain or humiliation afflicted by partner. Though most often it is considered that pain is a primary goal of masochist, some think that what really drives powerful excitement in masochist is the urge to submit and feel a total control, and sweet feeling of self obedience and helplessness.

Am I masochist?

For a masochist pain feeling is closely related with enjoyment and both cannot be separated from one another. Those feelings often border on the sensations of "being alive". And most requite a particular pain, where certain feelings are involved, for example, fear of being punished can be quite a strong gear for enhancement.

Masochist fears freedom above all. He doesn't feel free as those numerous restrictions and bonds he surrounded himself don't let him do it.

The way he talks or listens also tells a lot about his masochist addiction. For example, he may sit with his legs wide open as though inviting you to "hurt" him. In most cases a masochist chooses a place where he feels somewhat uncomfortable. For example, he chooses a small car where he is cramped. When he is talking he is a using counterfeit intonation in his voice.

Masochist has vanquishing feeling of loneliness being a part of another person. This "other person" masters him, guides him, and becomes an essential part of his life, his breath...When a masochist submits to someone person, he insistently aggrandizes the other one while humiliating himself. "The other is everything and I am nothing. I exist so far as being a part of someone else." That can be a motto of a masochist.

Some men who have erectile dysfunction find masochism as a substitute for real intercourse.

The most intense feelings for masochists are physical pain and humiliation inflicted either by the use of BDSM toy or any other means. Some experience pleasures when tied up, others want their master to beat, to make him grovel at feet or insult.

Women often prefer being punished, treated with indignity, where flogging is associated with a male power, masculinity, superiority, which is basically seen quite positively. For example, a woman may dram about a powerful and rude man who would beat her with a BDSM toy and throw down upon a floor and she would in her turn embrace his knees and beg forgiveness.

Masochist or submissive?

Masochist and submissive are names which are often confused with each other. Though a masochist may well be a submissive their basic urges are somewhat different. While submissive is driven by wish to content, to submit and do whatever a dominant wants, a masochist instincts lie in deriving pleasure from pain.

You can see the difference between both when looking closer to the conduct of both. Masochist would make everything to evoke a punishment reaction: he would provoke him to arouse aggressive behavior from the partner, the use of BDSM toys which are definitely meant to cause pain. A submissive is very much attuned to please his partner and comply with the image a dominant would impose on him. Submission to a master may indicate that if a "master" wants his "slave" to use BDSM toy he is using BDSM toy to follow the rules and not necessarily to receive pain.

Moreover, you can't say that masochist is better or worse than submissive. If talking about a S/M or D/S partners, their roles is a result of mutual consent, where everybody gets what he or she wants. Erotic desires to feel pain or to submit are a free choice of a person who got involved in the BDSM play. And no matter how far would a masochist go using BDSM toy as a way to experience torture, he expects to have pleasure from it.