You Have a Husband, but You Don't Have Sex

There are things you can reconcile yourself with, but you can hardly do that. I don't mean the fact that chocolate is fattening - there is some logics, though it is unfair from my point of view. I mean sexual abstinence. Of course, no one died of it, and some people even choose this way of living. However, most women get married so that to have a regular sex partner (not only for this purpose, of course, but still it is very important). And they really cannot reconcile themselves to the fact that the partner regularly refuses having sex.

Usually the period of abstinence begins on the second or on the third year of marriage. What happens? Does love end? Specialists say that most sexual problems are quite of another nature

Why do husbands refuse sex?

He has a lover

This is the first supposition of a woman whose all attempts to seduce her husband fail. Usually she has two versions: “he has another woman” or “he does not want me any more”. Most probably both problems take place. Much as you dislike it, it may happen so that this is the main reason for his unwillingness to have sex with you. But do not hurry to blame him of cheating! There are many other reasons for being indifferent to sex.

Negative emotions

Believe it or not, men are not ready to have sex in any place, any time and with any partner. Their sex drive does depend on many things, one of the most important being emotional and psychological state. Is everything OK with your relationships? Could it happen so that you unwillingly hurt him? For instance you could say he is a bad father when he could not dress the kid properly, or you could mention that your girlfriend's husband is wealthier. Men are much more vulnerable creatures than you could suppose, they are very easy to hurt.

Absence of emotional contact with wife turns into lack of trust and then leads to loss of sexual desire.

Tiredness

Do you want to have sex when you are tired, when your boss gives you lots of impossible tasks? No, you don't. Men, as well as women get tired, they have bosses or subordinates who get on their nerves. They have lots of other problems that make him very tired.

Erectile dysfunction

This is an awful diagnosis for any man. Problems with erection and fear of failure that results from these problems might be the reason for your abstinence. There are about 152 million men who suffer from erectile dysfunctions in the world!

Men hate to acknowledge having erectile dysfunction and do not want to go to a doctor to complain about this disorder. Try to convince your husband he should go to a doctor if he dared recognize having such problem.

Porn

Some people consider pornography to be harmful, others say this is a good way to refresh love life. Porn sites, porn films, “men's magazines” with naked beauties - all these things are available. Why does he choose “virtual” lovers rather than you?

Men love porn as it stimulates them and at the same time does not cause any difficulties (busty beauties easily orgasm, without any problems) and allows them to be perfect lovers in their fantasies.

Some men get so captivated by this world of sexual fantasies, that his wife does not turn him on any longer. The wife can be hardly compared to the beauties from porn: even if she is as beautiful as them she is unlikely to do many things from their “repertoire”. In this case a man gets indifferent to his wife, rather than to sex in general.

Some other reasons

There are some other reasons, for instance being captivated by something, for instance by work: in this case sexual energy sublimates. Also it happens so that your need for sex differs: for instance you need sex every day while he needs it once a month. May be he wants something new and spicy, while you are too conservative. Here only finding a compromise will help. The main thing is that this compromise should be searched for by the both of you.