First steps in Bondage

Bondage is a very popular play in BDSM. No wonder many non-D/S people have bondage play as one of the most desirable sexual fantasies. So let's hunt down the bondage peculiarities.

What is bondage?

In general, bondage is a way to hinder the submissive's body movements or to make the body immovable. There are a lot of tools: ropes, straps, cuffs, chains, collars, spreader bars, cages, shackles, suspended items and many other used to restrain your partner and most of them can vary in their purpose greatly from just a fetish thing to the whole-way punishment.

Why to choose Bondage?

There are probably a lot of reasons why you choose bondage play for your erotic scenery as it gives variety of enjoyable experiences.

• You have a possibility to release from inner barriers and give in the responsibility burden.
• You can experience highly intense sensations due to freedom restriction. A feeling of vulnerability or desire to oppose can sharpen up all your senses.
• You may use it as a part of another play, like flogging or orgasm control
• If you have particular fetish, bondage gives you the chance to enjoy BDSM toys as aesthetic tools in bondage play
• You may take pleasure in imposing control over the sub
• You may turn to a deeper level of trust and intimacy

Find the partner to trust

Although it refers to all types of BDSM plays, the level of trust in a relationship is one of the most important and primary things as many, especially hard bondage may put your partner's life in danger. If you choose casual relationships you must know that without trust you have to be aware of this risk and make a right decision.

Communication comes first

Bondage game begins far earlier than you choose the right type of BDSM toy. The first thing every participant initiates is communication. Both the Dom and the Sub outline their desires, expectations and basically have their scene ready for erotic play. They also set the limits and anticipate possible risks of BDSM toys use. It gives certain assurance and trust and helps both parties approach the game with the certain degree of realism.

Bondage Safety tips

As has been said before, there are different types of bondage: some are created for a more light erotic play, some are aimed at more intense acts of pleasure and pain. But no matter what type of bondage you choose, there is although a rule which has to be followed.

1. It has to be safe and you should feel quite comfortable in it.
2. Agree on safe words – phrase or gesture you will use to stop the game and signal you partner about the possible inconvenience
3. You should be able to keep your body in balance and feel relatively at ease.
4. BDSM toy you are using in bondage is for restriction but not for damaging. If you are not sure of the BDSM toy use, just don't get involved in the game or address an experienced BDSM lover.
5. You should watch over submissive's blood circulation.
6. Never use drugs or alcohol during the bondage or any other BDSM play
7. If you are a newbie in bondage, use BDSM toy which is less dangerous, such as cuffs made of leather or soft fabric material. Pay attention to the type of buckle of the cuffs: velcro is the best choice for beginners.
8. Nylon, rope and silk are thought to be more dangerous for bondage and cause problems for nerves and blood circulations if used improperly. They are also considered more difficult for release.
9. Avoid certain body areas during bondage. These are joints ( elbows, knees, ankles, wrists)and neck.
10. Always check if a person in bondage is breathing and have emergency tools handy to release him immediately.
11. Don't leave a person in bondage and watch over his reactions and emotional state carefully and use words of encouragement if necessary.