Erotic fantasy

All people, even the most serious and dull ones have erotic fantasies. While taking a bath, while playing chess and even while simply drinking coffee in a café people continue fantasizing. What is that stout gloomy man is thinking about? May be about these two girls who are laughing, chatting and having ice-cream with candied fruits? And what about this peroxide blonde? Why is she looking through the window? May be because the window glass reflects this brawny brunette sitting at the next table? May be she is going to lodge his image in her memory and bring it to her lonely bedroom?

Let all these people do in their imagination what they want. Erotic fantasy is necessary. It is even useful. It will prevent this stout man from being trialed for youth debauchery. It restrains aggressiveness and makes our sex life more diverse. Do not try to restrain yourself! Do not be ashamed of your fantasy, even if you are of the opinion that no normal person can imagine such things.

You cannot choose your fantasy deliberately. None of us is responsible for the things which generated by our imagination. Who knows, may be your fetishism takes its roots in your early childhood when your mother and her girlfriend put on you pink crawlers with laces? Now you put on a pink bra and go mad with enjoyment. While lovemaking your girlfriend imagines you are having sex in a shopwindow and comes in three minutes. This is cool! Your inexhaustible imagination will help you make your sex exciting and spicy.

But fantasies can be as unexpected as dreams. And like dreams they can become a nightmare if things that happen in them are not up to a person’s self-perceptions. It is nearly impossible to imagine how suffers a politician, a decent family man who cannot help dreaming about gang bang with his rivals. Aren’t you pity for a teacher who wishes to get in bed with her student? What she is doing in this imaginative bed! Acrobatic sex positions, sex toys, violence…She cannot get rid of images that overfill her mind…

Feeling of guilt. A sentimental kind fellow who chokes down tears when he sees a dead nestling cannot understand why he is so aroused by sex violence. He does not want to fulfill his fantasy but he is tortured by his thoughts. He suspects himself of being a cruel monster.

Actually, sex fantasies have nothing to do with real personal qualities. Many women dream about romantic, full of tenderness sex on the beach, but this does not prevent them from being dammed wretches and pinching their partners during intercourse.

You are not alone. A great number of people work to fulfill our fantasies. Erotic movies producers excel in inventing sex positions and scenes. Magazines, computer games, various kinds of sex toys: dildos, vibrators, realistic vaginas… Could all these things be invented if you were a single “deviant” in the world?

There are more fantasizing people than sorts of fantasies. This means that even if you dream about being raped by an ostrich, you are quite likely to find a few dozens like-minded persons. You will realize that your fantasy is not the most dirty and absurd.

Fulfill your fantasy

Sooner or later you will decide to share your fantasy with your beloved woman. Do it carefully, otherwise the consequences are likely to be much worse than you expected. Therefore take into consideration the following rules.

Rule one. Reliability. Fantasies that go beyond the scope of generally accepted standards can be shared only with a close and loving person. If your relationship is far from being perfect, than after you part all your friends will be aware of things you were going to do with her in bed.

Rule two. Step by step. Do not ask her directly “Do not you think we need a slave?” or “What about buying a few sex toys and inviting your cousin to our bed?”. Even if she dreams about the same, your rudeness and frankness might scare her. Buy a videocassette; try to describe your fantasy obscurely. One of the best ways is to mention a mythic friend and his whims.

Rule three. Let your lady express herself. Try to find out what fantasies excite her imagination. There is a chance that your fantasies will coincide. Be enthusiastic about her desires. In return she will be eager to please you.

Rule four. Be ready to forget about your fantasy. If your partner means to you more than your sex fantasy, than think in advance how you are going to extricate yourself if you realize she will never agree to do such terrible things. For example, you can begin with “A friend of mine likes it when…” Is her face getting pale? Than add “ I always thought there is something wrong with him”.

Consequences. Unfortunately a fulfilled fantasy often causes nothing but disappointment. Sex in a haystack with an unknown woman might cause severe allergy to hay. To make things worse, after some time you might realize this was gonorrhea or another STD rather than a simple allergy. You get disappointed with your fantasy and this is like to get disappointed with a good friend.

Do not lose heart. It is better to regret about something you have done, than about something you have not. So be an optimist. And make up a new fantasy.