How to make her enjoy anal sex? (part I)

Do you wish to try anal sex with your girlfriend? Are you afraid of her possible reaction? Well, we understand you. There are few women who would suggest trying anal sex themselves. Others are quite likely to refuse it, or even to be insulted by your suggestion. What should you do? Should you get discouraged and give up any attempts to try this forbidden fruit?

No, you should not. Step by step you will make her find this idea fine. The main thing is not to hurry. Do not be too persistent and straight. Do everything step by step. Actually, this talking into does not involve any talking. And of course it does not imply stupid questions men often ask women when trying to talk them into anal sex.

What not to ask

Many men deprive themselves of anal sex forever by wrong attempts to suggest anal sex. Most of them begin foreplay, make their partners aroused and at the moment when the partner expects them to penetrate the vagina and ask - "What about anal sex this time?"

Her first reaction is likely to be fright - she will think you are going to make her do this at once. There are only 2 inches between the entrance to the vagina and the anus. The only thing he has to do is to move a little lower.

Another bad beginning: -"Have you ever tried this thing in your anus?" If a woman says "not" she is afraid this will make her look like a virgin and will make him think he should be persistent. If she says "yes", than this might look like permission to penetrate her anus.

May be she tried anal sex once and began to hate it. May be she tried anal sex many times with another man and she liked it. But this does not mean that she wants to have anal sex now and with this man - i.e with you.

Anyway, by asking her such "yes/no" questions you will make her nervous, whereas anal intercourse more than any other sex activity requires physic and psychological relaxation.

No words. Just your little finger.

Keep silence when you do not know what to say. You really can get to know whether your partner loves anal sex without saying a word. Like any other erogenous zone anus differs in its sensitivity in different women. Anal sex, as well as vaginal requires foreplay, so do not decrease your chances by haste. Begin stroking her buttocks and watch her reaction? Does she contract them?

If she does, than it means she is nervous. If she does not than it is a good sign. Now stroke with your finger the area between her buttocks. Does she try to squeeze your finger with her buttocks? Does she turn on her belly when you begin touching her anus? If she does, than your chances are quite good. Now you can get down to more serious things.

Anal virginity

The following way to make her try anal sex is like this - get her ready for anal sex like if you got her ready for her first vaginal sex. Nearly every woman before her first real sexual intercourse had possibility to imagine how it is going to be by trying her boyfriend's finger in her vagina.

A woman whose anus is absolutely unfamiliar with penis or at least with an anal toy should be treated like a virgin. Do not insert your finger, although you know that there is no hymen. Imagine it is there. Put a little lube on your little finger (but try to do this so that she will not notice the anal lube) and slowly, with circular motions stroke the outside of the orifice. Than gradually insert the finger inside the anus. Do not move it!

Enjoyment anal sex gives is not the same as enjoyment a woman gets from vaginal sex. Here movements are not the most important thing. Women enjoy the sensation of fullness in the anus that can be filled with finger, penis or an anal toy (a butt plug, for example). By the way, butt plugs can be used for making anus ready for anal intercourse. But we are going to speak about this in the next part of the article.

Slowly insert the little finger up to the end, and than make circular motions with the whole wrist, without moving the finger back and forward. These motions will be felt in the vagina. While you are doing this do something else - kiss her nipples or stimulate her vagina with a sex toy (for example with a vibrator. Try to make her experience pleasure. A woman who enjoys anal foreplay will certainly soon be ready for everything else.