Depersonalization

Depersonalization implies an entire range of BDSM activities often referred to humiliation. Usually depersonalization means that the Dom orders his or her submissive to perform a role which is considerably different from the submissive's role in usual life.

As a rule depersonalization is fulfilled as turning a person into an object for example into a foot stool or an ash-tray. A person can as well be turned into an animal, let us say into a dog or a pony.

Many beginners cannot make their mind why Dom's and sub's use this activity. The information given below will help you to realize what can be attractive about depersonalization.

Depersonalization as Dom sees it

Depersonalization gives the Dom a mean to escalate his role of the Master up to the peak of his power and control over his slave. It makes a Dom an absolute owner of his slave by requiring much more submission than usually

Whatever role you have chosen for your submissive (no matter whether you turn him into a pet or an object) gives you an enormous pleasure of feeling your total control over your submissive.

Your submissive is deprived of any feelings, of any emotions. He is not a person, he is not even a slave, he is an object or an animal. He is nothing and he completely belongs to you. You can do with him whatever you want. Isn't it exciting?

Depersonalization as submissive sees it

For a submissive depersonalization means possibility to forget about his or her social role. To understand this think of how your personality looks from the society's point of view. You might be a young businessman, a boss, a mother of two children. But being deprived of your personality you become free of your duties and responsibilities.

Depersonalization makes you another creature, deprived of all your traits. It deprives you of power, of control - at least for some time.

Ways to practice depersonalization

Depersonalization might acquire various forms. The only thing can limit you is your fantasy. For some partners a word order is enough, others need use of some BDSM toys and accessories.

Let us see how BDSM toys and accessories are used for depersonalization. To understand BDSM toy's role in depersonalization games let us see two most spread ones.

Pony play

Pony play implies that the Dom is a master of a pony - his submissive.

By using BDSM toys in this game you emphasize roles you perform and make it easier to begin playing your roles. By wearing a riding suit the Dom does not only change his clothes - he forgets about your usual role and begin playing role of owner of your pony.

This does not only make the scene more real. This lets the submissive know he must be completely obedient to his Master.

The Master chooses what costume his Submissive should wear. He puts on his submissive the costume thus making it easier to the partner to turn from simple submissive into an object which has neither voice nor his own personality.

In this case the submissive might wear harness and a butt plug with pony tail on its end. You can choose whatever BDSM toy or accessory you want. You can whip up your pony with a flogger. You might have your pony blind if you wish by making it wear a mask. Actually you can do whatever you want, everything depends on your fantasy.

Of course, you might do without any BDSM toys, however these will considerably adorn your play and will make it much more real.

Foot stool game

In this game the submissive is no more than an object you put under your feet. Your submissive is a simple foot stool.

When playing an object the submissive's head and limbs can be completely restrained. Helplessness frees mind of perception of outside events including sensory stimulus. Here again BDSM toys and accessories are going to be of good help.

Handcuffs, bondage kits, blindfolders - all these BDSM toys are going to make the submissive completely helpless. He has nothing but to enjoy his sensations. He is deprived of control, he is not responsible for what is happening and he can give his master pleasure as well as to enjoy pleasure he is receiving.

These are only possible examples. Do not limit yourself, make up your own games and enjoy them!