Bondage: myths

Bondage is a perversion

People involved in BDSM are not a group of jerks or perverts who like to do everybody harm. Of course, as within any ethnical, religious or some other group you will find those who are usually denied by most people. But in majority a people, who likes to experiment with bondage toys are pretty socially adapted and have sound mind. The main reason they want to play with bondage toys is a mere desire to explore their feelings in full.

Using Bondage toys is violence

BDSM toys are not actually a violence or abuse in its full sense. What both dominant and submissive are into with each other is done by mutual consent. A submissive wants to be spanked and restrained. And dominant is actually fulfilling his desires. In bondage play both partners set the spectrum of limits from "soft" to "hard". They agree on things, which will be absolutely forbidden and things, which may be considered under certain circumstances.

Once you started using bondage toys you will get addicted

If a person wants to be addicted, he will be addicted to BDSM, alcohol, drugs, gambling and whatever his favorite thing is. In fact when you try something new, like bondage toys, you discover things, which you were not aware before out of curiosity or desire. And it's all up to you to stop or go on.

In bondage play a man is dominant and woman is submissive by nature

Bondage play attracts people of any gender and sex orientation. One day you may feel that you want to be submissive, but other day you may get pleasure from dominant role. It's all your choice. Actually, there is more evidence, that men tend to choose to be submitted.

Dominant person must be a kind of villain who tortures the submissive

As a matter of fact bondage play is ruled by submissive. In this way, "top" person should be very sensitive to satisfy "bottom" needs. And that may be a primary urge of dominant - to please submissive and get satisfaction from it.

People who use bondage toys were abused in the childhood

Often things that are somewhat similar are merged in one concept. Like, if you use abusing sex toys, you had unhappy childhood or abusing experience or if you like anal sex you are a gay. In sober fact, among those who use bondage toys are a great number of people, who didn't seem to have some harsh troubles in the past.