BDSM safety tips(part II) (part I)

Safety is one of the main principles BDSM is based on. BDSM is not simple horror and torturing. It implies love, respect and responsibility of each other. The previous part of the article comprised general safety tips. Now we are going to speak about various types of play, about BDSM toys used for each type of play and ways to provide safety during BDSM session.

Flogging and spanking play

Flogging play implies use of various flogging toys, such as simple whips and multi-tailed whips called floggers. Most floggers look quite scaring however, they are not as painful as might seem. Actually some of them are not painful at all. Nevertheless, you should be careful when choosing a whip or a flogger.

Choice of a flogger or whipe. Necessarily pay attention to the lashes, they must not be too thick and stiff. Another thing you should pay attention to the ends of lashes - they should be a little rounded so as not to be too painful and not to cause injury. Choose only soft floggers. Your BDSM toys must not hurt the submissive.

Spanking and Paddling Spanking and paddling as well implies use of especial BDSM toys. Every time when you use a paddle remember that your blows should not be directed to kidneys, neck or lower back. Instead spank butt, thighs or upper back.

Restraint

BDSM play almost always implies bondage and restraint. Proper restraint adds greatly spices up the play but only provided you do everything properly and use the right BDSM toys for this purpose.

Tying.. Many doms love the idea of tying down the submissive as it really makes him or her completely helpless and obedient. However, always keep in mind that for this purpose you should use chains or ropes, rather than silk scarves or nylon stockings which tend to make tight knots. As well they tend to pinch - this is likely to cause nerve injury.

Handcuffs. These are one of the most popular BDSM toys, however, if used improperly they are likely to harm the submissive.

Handcuffs safety tips

1.Always lock the handcuffs after you have put them on the submissive. Unlocked handcuffs can by accident lock themselves thus injuring the submissive while he is trying to change the position.

2. Do not draw the handcuffs too tight. It is enough that they do not slip down. The bracelets of locked handcuffs must freely turn around wrists of your slave. The bracelet must not press the skin.

3.Never hang up your submissive with handcuffs and do not put him on his wrists with handcuffs on. This can severely damage the nerves.

General tips for restraint and bondage

1. If you are a submissive and you feel your limbs get cold, let the dom know about this matter. The fact is that usually coldness of limbs means difficulties with blood circulation. Therefore the restraint should be repositioned or loosened.

2.Never block simultaneously the submissive's nose and mouth. If you use such BDSM toys as gags, make sure the bottom's nose is free.

3.Always have at hand a pair of scissors so as you can urgently loosen your partners from ropes when necessary.

Anal play

BDSM activity often implies anal play - either anal intercourse or use of special anal toys. Anal play seems enjoyable for both men and women but only provided it is performed properly and with taking into account all safety measures.

Safe anal play tips.

Relaxation. This rule must necessarily be followed, otherwise you are not going to get pleasure. Lubrication - lubrication provides better gliding. Anus does not have natural lubrication, therefore use of a lubricant is absolutely necessary.

Slow penetration. Penetration must be slow, gradual and gentle, especially if the receiving partner is not experienced enough.

Only anal toys. If you want to use a sex toy for anal play, than use only specially designed anal toys. Sex toys of this kind possess a flared base which does not allow them to be inserted too far. There are plenty of nice anal toys which will make your anal play really exciting!

Never think that safety rules are designed for breaking them. Love your partner and be responsible for his well-being!