BDSM Safety tips (part I) (part II)

BDSM activity must be safe - this is one of the main BDSM principles which should necessarily be observed. However, not everyone is aware of what this principle really means and what it implies.

The fact is that safety in BDSM is something more than willingness not to harm the submissive. You might be eager not to harm your submissive's health, you might be careful about your own safety however lack of necessary knowledge is very likely to prevent you and your partner from practicing safe BDSM.

Actually safety implies many things such as proper choice of a partner, proper getting ready for BDSM session, safe use of BDSM toys and safe words.

Choice of a partner

This is not an easy matter. You have not only to find a person who loves the same as you. You must make sure your partner is a mentally normal person who is not going to harm or even kill you. Therefore choice of a partner implies a great deal of caution.

Partner choice tips

1.Preferably this should be a person whom you know quite well or you friend's acquaintance. Make sure this person is not a maniac who is going to kill you or at least severely injure you.

2.If still you are going to have sex with a stranger - let someone know the address where you are going to meet. As well leave your phone number and ask someone to call you at some definite time.

3.Postpone or cut the date if you feel you should avoid it. Instead try to gather information about your possible partner. But even if you like your partner and do not have any reasons to distrust him always reasonably value his actions.

BDSM session safety

It implies proper getting ready for session, safe use of BDSM toys and safe words.

Proper getting ready for a BDSM session

Providing safety of a BDSM session begins before it, rather than at the moment when you take a BDSM toy (a whipe, a paddle, cuffs, etc) being eager to begin your play. First of all you should get ready for the session.

Make sure

- you have first aid at hand. Even the safest play might be risky. Make sure you can help your partner when necessary.

- your partner is in order: he is not sick, he does not have sores, he is not drunk, etc.

- your BDSM toys are in order and are not going to harm either you or your partner.

Safe BDSM toys use

Improper and unsafe use of BDSM toys is fright with injures or even severe health harm. Therefore necessarily take into account the following tips.

1.Read carefully the instruction and carefully follow it when using a BDSM toy for the first time.

<2>Always make sure the BDSM toy you are going to use is in order. This especially concerns battery operated sex toys.

3.Being a Dom you can first try a BDSM toy yourself in order to find out what your sub is likely to feel. Do not think that this will make you less dominant. Remember that you are responsible for your slave's health.

Safe words.

Safe words provide the submissive with possibility to stop the session thus protecting himself of injures or psychological traumas.

Safe words. How to use

1.Necessarily use a unique word, rather than simple "no". This word must be intended only for one purpose - to let the dom know he should stop what he is doing.

2.Use of such BDSM toys as gags which prevent the submissive from speaking necessarily implies a stop-sign which means the same as safe word.

3.Safe words must always be respected. There is no reason to neglect it.

Confidentiality

For some reasons you might want keep your being involved in BDSM community in secret. This is your right, but it as well implies some certain measures which will help you maintain secrecy.

1.Internet confidentiality. Do not let anyone know you e-mail or icq password. Get a separate e-mail address for discussing BDSM topics at forums, do not use your work e-mail address for this purpose.

2.BDSM toys and books. When buying BDSM toys, books and all this kind of stuff, think carefully where you are going to keep them so as not to be seen by others.

3.Pictures.Be especially careful with pictures and video material with your taking part in BDSM activities as these materials are likely to become a thing to blackmail you with.

No BDSM safety rule can be neglected. Be responsible for your health and health of your partner. Always keep in mind the three principles - safe, sane and consensual!